One of the hardest things for a newly recovered person is staying sober during holiday’s. For many people alcohol is a big part of the celebration. I drive by liquor stores during Christmas and the parking lot is typically filled up and people are coming out of the store with boxes not just small bags.
When I was newly sober I white-knuckled the holiday’s and left the party early. White-knuckle means to just get through something that isn’t easy. I also found myself hanging around the snack table more often. I love little kids and in my family there is no shortage of babies and little kids, so I would usually just spend much of my time with them. As time went by it got easier and I became grateful that I did not have to spend every holiday drunk with a hangover the next morning. I found myself trying to be more sociable and show an interest in what people were talking about. I was also surprised to find out that there are many people who do not drink during the holidays and those were the ones I gravitated to and actually enjoyed myself. Before I had stopped drinking I was more concerned with getting the buzz than actually talking to anyone.
Early sobriety is about changing the way we have lived our lives. Learning to live without alcohol is not easy when it was so much a part of what we did everyday. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) suggests that we take “One day at a time” and sometimes one moment at a time. If we look at the big picture which is a lifetime without drinking it may seem impossible. Deciding to just not drink for today is much easier. The one day turns into a week, a month and then years and eventually the parties and picnics are not hard to get through at all. What we have instead is the knowledge that we did nothing to embarrass our selves or our families and we actually have fun sober.