Recovery takes time when it comes to really changing your life. The first part is putting down the drink or the drug and learning to live each day sober. I think the first year is about regaining health and learning who we are as sober people. Alcoholics Anonymous suggests that people in the first year of sobriety not enter into new relationships or make any big decisions if it can be helped.
Unfortunately, my youngest daughter has addiction issues as well. Last year she was trying to attend college and struggling with addiction. She has been clean and sober for over a year and just recently started going to college again. She is in a good place and I really believe she will finish school.
Often what happens to some alcoholics and addicts is that the excitement of being sober causes them to take on too much in the beginning and it can be their downfall. With renewed energy they want to accomplish all of the things that they couldn’t do when drinking or doing drugs. With all illnesses there is a time for healing and going easy on yourself. Most people have to work now and often double incomes aren’t enough to take care of a family. Focusing on returning to work or finding a job should be the biggest thing the addict does in the first year. The first year may also be a time of repairing relationships with family and friends.
Alcoholics and addicts are all or nothing type of people. It is that thinking that gets us into trouble. Life is about progression not perfection. It is the journey that counts not necessarily the destination. As long as we remain sober we can accomplish anything we set out to do. There is a time and place for everything and it is important not to rush the process.