This Too Shall Pass

Alcoholics Anonymous(AA) has many wonderful slogans and “This Too Shall Pass” is one of my favorites. So often when life is throwing things at us we think it will never end. It is hard to remember when life was easier. Unfortunately this kind of attitude can be a trigger that may cause us to drink […]

Footprints

One night I dreamed that I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky. In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand. Sometimes there were two sets of footprints and other times there were only one set of footprints. This bothered me because I noticed […]

Making Good Decisions

Active addicts and alcoholics have trouble making good decisions. They rarely have a clear head even if in certain moments they are sober. The difficult part is that decisions we make seem good at the time. It is only in the clean up of the aftermath that we see we were wrong. It has been […]

Happy Father’s Day!

Happy Father’s Day to all my readers who are dads. Sadly, my father is no longer alive. It started me thinking about reasons to drink. Alcoholics and addicts never learned how to do certain emotions. We run from sadness and it certainly gives us a reason not that we need one. During times of sadness […]

“Relieve Me of the Bondage of Self”

“Relieve me of the bondage of self” is a sentence from Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) third step prayer. Many of us are in bondage to ourselves whether we are alcoholics or not. The world revolves around what we want and what we need. We always have to make sure that we are not left out of […]

Mental Illness and Addiction

Mental Illness and addiction are often present at the same time making either diagnosis difficult. Mental illness can masquerade as addiction and visa versa. In order to make an accurate diagnosis addiction must be addressed first. In the case of panic attacks, for instance, alcohol and drugs can actually bring them on. The brain has […]

Sick Of Addiction

At times I find myself sick of addiction. I am sick of my own addiction and sick of the people in my life who have addiction problems. I wonder why I ever pursued a college education to help other addicts and alcoholics. The lies and manipulations that addicts are so very good at make me […]

The Family of Alcoholics

The family of alcoholics is not something I usually talk about as my sympathies always lie with the alcoholic or addict. Part of staying sober is understanding the people we have hurt and attempt to right those wrongs. I have seen both sides of alcoholism as my father was an alcoholic and I am too. […]

How Do I Get Self Esteem?

How do I get self esteem and how important is it for sobriety? All my life I have felt that I wasn’t good enough for anyone or anything. It may have started when I was very young and our neighbor was putting up a fence between his house and ours. Even at that age I […]

More on the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

I thought I would do more on the twelve steps of Alcoholics Anonymous(AA) as there appears to be some interest in it on my site. My experience has been that people who really want to be sober understand that there has to be a change in our way of doing things. Whatever way we have […]

Staying Sober During Holidays

One of the hardest things for a newly recovered person is staying sober during holiday’s. For many people alcohol is a big part of the celebration. I drive by liquor stores during Christmas and the parking lot is typically filled up and people are coming out of the store with boxes not just small bags. […]

Addicted to Chaos

Many people are addicted to chaos as a way of life and think it is normal and okay. For these people there has to be something to get upset about everyday or they will invent or cause something to happen. I believe it stems from childhood and living in an alcoholic home. The tension and […]

Blocked By Anger

I am sitting here at my desk trying to come with an idea to write about and I realized I am blocked by anger. I have been angry for two days and it has consumed me. I can only imagine what I must look like on the outside with all this ugliness on the inside. […]

It’s Not Fair!

How many times have we heard a child say “it’s not fair”? Then we go on to say how sometimes life isn’t fair and it is just something we have to learn to live and we smile at them sure in our knowledge that we are a good parent. The truth is as alcoholics we […]

Instant Sobriety

People who don’t understand alcoholism expect that five days in detox leads to instant sobriety. Wishful thinking but not realistic. We did not get to the bottom of the alcoholic barrel overnight and we are not getting sober overnight either. The problem lies with the insurance companies that don’t want to pay for longer term […]

Triggers That Compromise Our Sobriety

Things that causes a desire for a drink or a drug are triggers that compromise our sobriety and need to be avoided if possible. Triggers can be situations, people, places, anything that we did while drinking on a constant basis. People can be really difficult if we have to avoid friends that we drank with. […]

Afraid of Getting Sober

It doesn’t seem possible that anyone could be afraid of getting sober, however there is a tremendous amount of fear involved. Whether you are headed for a rehab or just thinking about putting down the drink it is the fear that often stops someone from taking that first step. For most of us drinking was […]

Keep Toxic People Out Of Your Life

Should we keep toxic people out of our life or should we be available to anyone that needs our help. I have a person in my life that I love very much but she has a crisis a minute and it is making me feel weary. Every other day there is a phone call with […]

How To Find Sober Living Houses in Ct.

The best way I have found to find Sober Living Homes in Ct was to go on a computer and do a Google Search for them. I am aware that many people don’t have a computer in their homes, however most towns and cities have libraries. The librarians are very helpful and will go out […]

Sober Living Houses in Connecticut

According to the Department of Mental Health and Addiction Service(DMHAS) there 160 Sober Living Houses in Ct. There are more but they are not certified through DMHAS. That is not to imply that they aren’t any good, they just haven’t applied for that kind of certification. A sober living house is a residential facility that […]

My Personal Goal

One of my personal goals has been to write one hundred articles for my website. It has taken a couple of years to do this but when I publish this article I will have reached my goal. I have not been as disciplined as I wanted to be and I always want instant results. This […]

What is an Alcohol Blackout?

An alcohol blackout is a temporary form of amnesia during alcohol consumption. There are two forms of an alcohol blackout. One is called fragmentary (also called brownouts) during which moments of time are forgotten. The other type is called en bloc which is amnesia for much longer periods of time. There is an area of […]

I Am Responsible

When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, I want the hand of AA always to be there; for that I am responsible. This is a declaration from an international convention of Alcoholics Anonymous in 1965. This is the platform on which AA started. It is one alcoholic helping another by sharing what we went through. […]

Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous 9-12

Tradition 9: AA as such, should never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. AA should only be as organized as needed to get work done. No one governs anyone else or anything else. It is just people volunteering to do paper work or …

The Empty Nest Syndrome

The Empty Nest Syndrome doesn’t seem like subject matter that belongs on an alcohol and drug website. Anything that has the potential to bother me enough to think of taking a drink or a drug belongs on my site. When my children were young and I would hear of older people going through empty nest […]

Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous

Tradition 6: An AA group should never endorse, finance or lend the AA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money property or prestige divert us from our primary purpose. Tradition 7: Every AA group should be self-supporting declining outside contributions. The subject of money whether it is …

Drunk At A Substance Abuse Meeting

Is it appropriate to come drunk to a substance abuse meeting? I was in a group yesterday and the person sitting next to me had obviously been drinking. I truly care about this person but I left the meeting angry that this had happened. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) welcomes all people who have a desire to […]

Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous

Tradition Three: The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking. This tradition is quite simple, you only need a desire to stop drinking. You don’t have to promise to stop you only have to want to. Most alcoholics who have lived through the horror of alcoholism have …

The Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous

The Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) are the guidelines that keep AA alive and working. Without them there is a good chance that AA would not have become the lifeline for those of us that believe it keeps us clean and sober. Tradition One: Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends on […]

My Will Be Done

My first sponsor said my mantra should be “my will be done”. She lovingly pointed out how often I said I will at the start of a sentence. Unfortunately what usually went a long with that was my stubbornness to have my own way. My own way often led down the road of destruction through […]

Addiction and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Addiction and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is called a Dual-Diagnosis and can be difficult to treat and live with. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD is the body/mind response to a negative life changing experience. Most people have heard about soldiers that come back from war and hear a car backfire and think its gun […]

Appropriate Sharing in Open Discussion Groups

Appropriate sharing in open discussion groups is something that many people struggle with. There are people who are fine with sharing their entire life story often making others feel uncomfortable. There are no rules for what to share and many feel that whatever a person feels comfortable sharing is okay. Typically when a group is […]

Just Say No

“Just say no”was Nancy Reagan’s answer to drug and alcohol abuse. I will be honest and say I have never put much stock in it. It may have worked for some young kids who like cutsey little phrases but in the dark, cruel world of drug abuse it is not very effective. Drug addicts and […]

Pressing On Toward The Goal

The idea of pressing on toward the goal came to me when I was reading from the Bible: Philippians 3:13,14. The Apostle Paul is talking about the work he has done towards spreading the Word about Jesus. He speaks of pressing on toward the goal and finishing the race toward heaven. He calls the goal […]

The Definition of Insanity

The definition of insanity is repeating the same behavior expecting different results. This is actually not the real definition but its not that far from the truth. One of the real definitions of insanity is a “deranged state of mind” usually occurring as a specific disorder. In Alcoholics Anonymous meetings the definition of …

Plant A Seed For Sobriety

If you plant a seed for sobriety you will mostly likely be rewarded with a flower or plant. It takes work as you water the plant and make sure it has the appropriate lighting and soil. It also takes time. You won’t see a sprout for awhile and yet underneath the soil there is growth […]

Opiate Withdrawals

Opiate withdrawals are a journey into hell. If a person was to go through it once one would think that opiate addiction would be non existent. Unfortunately the need to feel high and the fact that our addiction tells us we have no addiction, we foolishly are willing to do it again. In this article […]

Enabling or Supporting

Am I enabling or supporting my child? This is a question many parents ask themselves when dealing with a son or daughter addicted to drugs or alcohol. I have never been a fan of “tough love”. I have always argued that the people advocating tough love were usually people who have never known the hellishness […]

Suboxone Friend or Foe

Is Suboxone a friend or foe? Suboxone is a medication used to help with opiate addiction. Buprenorphine combined with naloxone is the chemical name for Suboxone. Another substance with the same properties as Suboxone is called Subutex. which also has Buprenorphine without the naloxone. Both work the same way as Methadone works for …

The Day The Music Died

The Day the Music Died is the name of a poster I did when I was in college. The class was the Biology of Addiction and for our final we had to do a poster depicting the devastation and loss of addiction. I was fortunate to have grown up with the music of the …

You Are Only As Sick As Your Secrets

You are only as sick as your secrets is a slogan taken from Alcoholics Anonymous. These secrets can be things you are lying or covering up about or they can also be things you are refusing to deal with or even acknowledge. Alcoholics and addicts are masters at not dealing with problems or putting them […]

The Hopelessness of Addiction

The hopelessness of addiction is sad to watch in someone. I was talking to one of my neighbors recently and he told me he had just left a rehab for his addiction about nine days ago and two days after he left the rehab he used again. I could see the fear, hopelessness and self […]

Resentment in the Alcoholic and Addict

Resentment in the addict and alcoholic is probably the number one thing that will take them down. We are the kings and queens of wallowing in every imagined or real offense we have against some one. We can’t remember what we did last night but we remember what someone said to us 40 years ago […]

Out Growing Drug Addiction

Out growing drug addiction, is it possible? This past weekend I had the pleasure of going to a baby shower for my wonderful nephew’s wife. It was beautiful outside and as I strolled around the yard I began to think about my own drug addiction struggles. I am 57 years old and addiction has been […]

The Secret Life of Addiction

The secret life of addiction is a lonely life. It can be exhausting and depressing trying to keep addiction a secret from everyone. There is no joy in the day as we struggle to keep a smile on our face. We can be in a room full of people we love and still feel outside […]

Thinking Good Things

Thinking good things is a positive way for the addict and alcoholic to live their lives. I am an avid Bible reader and in fact the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous was based on the teachings of the Bible. In the New Testament, specifically Philippians 4:8 is a verse I try to live by. It […]

Accepting What We Can’t Change

Accepting what we can’t change is one of the hardest things an alcoholic or an addict has to learn. We like things to stay just as they are no matter what that is. I just recently learned that my childhood home may be up for sale and that one of my family members might be […]

The Value of a Support System in Sobriety

The value of a support system in sobriety is key for the addict or alcoholic. I am not referring to Alcoholics Anonymous or some other recovery group. I am talking about the people in our lives that help us on a day to day basis. My husband is one of my biggest supporters closely followed […]

Exercising Our Free Will

Exercising our free will is a gift that was given to us by God. Many people blame God for the mess the world is in and for the mess our lives are in. Alcoholics Anonymous suggests that the active alcoholic is the epitome of self-will run riot. Years ago a wonderful sponsor I had pointed […]

Recovery Takes Time

Recovery takes time when it comes to really changing your life. The first part is putting down the drink or the drug and learning to live each day sober. I think the first year is about regaining health and learning who we are as sober people. Alcoholics Anonymous suggests that people in the first year […]

Spirituality in Addiction

Spirituality in addiction is a touchy subject for many people. Many people don’t believe in God or don’t believe He will help them through addiction. I have believed in God since I was a little girl and throughout my struggles with addiction I have seen Him work in my life. I think part of the […]

Characteristics of Adult Children of Alcoholics

There are many characteristics Adult Children of Alcoholics share. In doing some research for this article I was amazed at how many of these characteristics I still exhibit. At 57 years old I thought I had worked through many of the obstacles that have come from growing up in an alcoholic home. I discovered that […]

My Love Affair with Pain Medication

My love affair with pain medication rages on as I found out the other day. I have not craved any pain medication in a while. I wasn’t foolish enough to think I didn’t have a problem with it anymore but I didn’t want it all the time either. The other day I was put into […]

Dealing With Sobriety

Dealing with sobriety can be really hard. I always thought that if I remained sober that life would automatically be easier. Suddenly my life would be better and everything would be great. It hasn’t quite turned out that way. Sobriety carries with it certain responsibilities. When I was drinking and using drugs I did exactly […]

I am not a liar, I don’t lie!

“I am not a liar, I don’t lie” is something I heard the other night on a reality show that I watch. I started to think about that sentence and wondered if anyone can really make that statement and have it be true. There are white lies and black lies and sins of omissions. Sometimes […]

Self Discipline In Sobriety

The importance of self-discipline in sobriety is often over-looked and yet it is so important. Alcoholics Anonymous suggests that whatever we put before sobriety we will lose. I was visiting a friend in the hospital a few days ago. She is also a recovering alcoholic with 25 years of sobriety under her belt. I noticed […]

Hungry, Angry, Lonely or, Tired

Hungry, angry, lonely or tired are four things we should not let ourselves become in sobriety. Alcoholics Anonymous has shortened this to Halt. They suggest that anyone of these situations can affect our sobriety. It is always important to eat the right things. Our bodies can not function correctly if we have a diet of, […]

The Devil Within Me

The devil within me is difficult to deal with considering I am on a first name basis with Jesus. The devil’s name is alcohol and drug abuse and this devil plays havoc with my personality. My husband and children know that they can talk to me about what my substance abuse did to them. Thankfully […]

The Hungry Monster

The hungry monster living inside of us is addiction. It is starving for everything we have. It will stop at nothing until it has devoured all that we hold dear. This monster considers our children to be an appetizer and our spouses the main course. Our extended family is this monster’s salad and our possessions […]

The Sadness of Addiction

The sadness of addiction really hit home for me this past weekend. I have a brother who has been the black sheep of the family for years. He has had very little contact with any one in my family. He has spent years in and out of jail struggling with alcoholism and drug abuse. The […]

Fighting the Good Fight

Fighting the good fight is a phrase taken from the Bible. Paul, a disciple of Jesus is at the end of his life and he speaks about how he fought the good fight and stood the course to spread the good word about Jesus. Paul was jailed and beaten for his faith. Paul suffered some […]

Stinkin Thinkin

Stinkin thinkin is a term used in Alcoholics Anonymous to describe thoughts or perspectives that can lead the addict or alcoholic back to the drink or the drug. I take that one step farther and say that very little is as it really appears to us. As in most high schools, mine had the usual […]

Sponsorship in Alcoholics Anonymous

Sponsorship in Alcoholics Anonymous is not a job that should be taken lightly. A sponsor is someone who makes suggestions, at times gives advice and is a sounding board for another alcoholic. He/she can be tough a times and say things we do not like. It is important for the sponsor to have at least […]

Is It Possible To Maintain Sobriety Without Help?

Is it possible to maintain sobriety without help? I have known of one person who was able to stay sober without God or Alcoholics Anonymous or any other help. That man was my father. The problem was that he was sober and very unhappy. His unhappiness manifested itself through meanness. I avoided him as much […]

Negative Emotions in Sobriety

Negative emotions in sobriety are difficult to deal with largely because we felt that our problems would go away once we became sober. Anxiety can cause heart palpitations, a nervous stomach and a general feeling of unrest. Depression can cause feelings of sadness and lack of motivation. Alcoholics and addicts whether sober or not do […]

The Degradation of Addiction

The degradation of addiction is appalling and adds to the shame we already feel. The need to get our drug or drink is so strong that we will debase ourselves to get it. We will say or do anything it takes to get rid of the pain. This is a sad picture of a basically […]

Adult Children of Alcoholics

Adult children of alcoholics carry many negative characteristics from childhood that they may not be aware of. It is important to identify these issues to lead a productive life. The adult child of an alcoholic has a 50% chance of becoming an alcoholic, so figuring out what drives us is even more important. One of […]

Things That Trigger Addicts To Relapse

Things that trigger addicts to relapse have to be identified to keep us sober. Triggers are situations, places, people and emotions that cause us to think about taking a drink or a drug. An obvious trigger would be going to a bar for the alcoholic. The death of a loved one or divorce certainly …

“Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful”

Cunning, baffling and powerful is a description of the disease of alcoholism according to Alcoholics Anonymous. It is cunning because the disease can stay in the background patiently. We can be living a sober life and then one day the thought of a drink comes in our head and off we go. It has happened […]

Alcoholism in Women

Alcoholism in women became more prevalent after World War 2. There was a study done at the University of Washington led by Richard A. Cerucza that claimed women born from 1954 to 1963 were at greater risk for alcoholism than those born from 1944 to 1953. The study also suggested that the increase was …

Fear

Fear is in all of us and especially in the alcoholic. Fear is what drives us to all kinds of behaviors. Most people would argue that they are not afraid, but if you look deeply you will probably find that underneath it all fear is running rampant. My husband and I have a very hard […]

Life After Jail or Rehab

Life after jail or rehab requires vigilance. In both of these there is a certain amount of security in that all of your decisions are made for you. What you eat, what you do all day is planned for you. In prison even your clothes are chosen for you. The only decision that is required […]

Relapse Happens Long Before The first Drink

Relapse happens long before the first drink and it is about attitudes. The first time we don’t do something we say we will do, we are on the way to a relapse. The first bad attitude that we let fester, we are on the way to relapse. It can take months to actually pick up […]

I Am Powerless!

I am powerless is a hard thing to come to terms with. It doesn’t matter if it is alcohol, drugs, food or cigarettes. I have battled all of these addictions at one time or the other in my life much to my dismay. I wake up in the morning filled with renewed strength to succeed […]

What is the Twelfth Step of Alcoholics Anonymous?

The twelfth step of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is “Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principals in all our affairs”. A spiritual awakening is a change in attitude toward God and the way we live our lives. We realize […]

What is the Eleventh Step of Alcoholics Anonymous?

The eleventh step of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out”. The first three steps introduced us to our higher power in an effort to get […]

What is the Tenth Step of Alcoholics Anonymous?

The tenth step of Alcoholics anonymous (AA) is “continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” In steps one through seven you have worked on the inside and steps eight and nine you have begun the work on the outside by taking action. By this time you will have quite […]

What are the Eighth and Ninth Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous?

The eighth and ninth step of Alcoholics Anonymous is the beginning of mending the broken relationships in our lives. The eighth step states “Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all”. In this step you must once again put your pride aside and make a […]

What is Step Seven of Alcoholics Anonymous?

Step seven of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) states “Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.” Humbly is the operative word in this step. Humility is the absence of arrogance and pride. Humility is sadly lacking in most alcoholics. We come into AA with a chip on our shoulder. We are angry at the world for the […]

What is the Sixth Step of Alcoholics Anonymous?

The sixth step is the beginning of changing the behaviors and character defects that lead to our drinking in the first place. Those defects have kept us in bondage to our drinking. In looking at these behaviors and earnestly starting to change them we begin the journey to freedom. The sixth step states “Were …

What is the Fifth Step of Alcoholics Anonymous?

In the fifth step of Alcoholics Anonymous you begin to own up to the behaviors you exhibited while drinking. You begin to clean up the mess you made of your life with alcohol. It states “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs”. In the first step […]

What is the Fourth Step of Alcoholics Anonymous?

The fourth step of Alcoholics Anonymous is concerned with looking at ourselves and our behavior during drinking. It is the beginning of breaking down the walls of denial that we live in. It is not easy but very necessary. The form denial takes is that we don’t think we have a problem with alcohol and […]

What is the Third Step of Alcoholics Anonymous?

The third step of Alcoholics Anonymous is “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him”. Many recovering alcoholics lament over the fact that they agree to turn their will and their lives over to God and in the next sentence take that will […]

What is the Second Step of Alcoholics Anonymous?

The second step is when the spiritual part of Alcoholics Anonymous begins. It says “Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity”. Many people have mixed feelings or even anger when it is implied that belief in God is necessary for sobriety. This ambivalence can stand in the way […]

What is Step One of Alcoholics Anonymous?

Step One of Alcoholics Anonymous is “admitting we are powerless over alcohol and that our lives have become unmanageable.” Admitting that we are powerless over anything can be hard to swallow for anyone, but for the alcoholic it is almost impossible. The alcoholic has a tremendous amount of pride (misplaced though it may be) and […]

What is Alcoholics Anonymous?

Alcoholics Anonymous or AA is a” fellowship of men and woman who share their experience, strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism”. This is taken from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Alcoholics Anonymous was established in 1935 in Akron, Ohio …

Sitting With Pain

Sitting with pain be it emotional or physical is hard to do for anyone but especially for the addict or alcoholic. I have been feeling pretty good lately on both levels. God has blessed me with hope which is a necessity for us to live. Without hope we have nothing. This morning I walked into […]

Jesus Drank Why Can’t We?

If Jesus drank why can’t we is a question I have asked myself many times. His first miracle was turning the water into wine in Cana of Galilee. There were many references to Jesus drinking wine. If He is the one who sets the gold standard for behavior then drinking should be fine. I am […]

Clean and Sober

The times in my life that I have been able to say that I am clean and sober have been unrivaled by anything else. The only thing that has been better is when I have felt that I am right with God. Why then do we give up that feeling to go back to the […]

Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired

Sick and tired of being sick and tired is a slogan from Alcoholics Anonymous.  It describes the physical and emotional sickness and exhaustion that comes with drug seeking and drug using.  Being an active addict is a full time job and is just as tiring as a “real” job. I have often thought that if […]

Tough Love

I have never been a person who believed in tough love. I thought it was a way for the people that used it to feel superior and better than us. I felt that alcoholics and addicts had a hard enough time without people making them feel even worse. I thought what we needed was compassion […]

Fear and Faith

Fear and faith go hand in hand. Beneath any negative emotion an alcoholic or addict has is fear. Any one of these negative emotions can be driven away by faith.  Most people know that Alcoholics Anonymous is based on 12 steps as a way to live life and stay sober.  Step four is “Made a […]

Needle in My Arm

I woke up one day with a needle in my arm. How I got here? I still ask that question. My biggest fear was becoming a junkie with no way out except the escape from the rush of dope. I woke in the morning feeling like death. There was no way to get out of […]

Doing the Next Right Thing

Doing the next right thing is a motto taken from Alcoholics Anonymous. As alcoholics and addicts we have spent a lot of time seldom doing the right thing. Alcoholics and addicts spend much of their time lying. Some of us have stolen things and have certainly hurt others because of the nature of our disease.  […]

Should Addicts Date Other Addicts?

Should addicts date other addicts? As a mother, my first thought is to say no. One of my daughters, (who is an addict) seems to gravitate towards dating other addicts and alcoholics. I thinks it speaks to her lack of self-esteem; she doesn’t feel worthy of dating a healthy man. I have seen her meet […]

Isolation

Isolation should be avoided if you are an alcoholic. We are told by Alcoholics Anonymous and the therapeutic community that alcoholics shouldn’t be by themselves for long periods of time. It will make us focus too much on ourselves. It is also said that we need to be in service to others as often as […]

One Day At A Time

One day at a time is one of the slogans that Alcoholics Anonymous uses as a tool for staying sober. AA has many wonderful slogans and at times I have found strength in almost all of them. The term “One Day at a Time” is actually taken from the Bible where God tells us not […]

Interventions, Do They Work?

Interventions; do they work or do they just cause more unrest in a family that already has their share of misery. Interventions are when family and close friends confront the alcoholic in a group setting, in an effort to force the alcoholic to acknowledge that they have a drinking problem.  Each person takes turns talking […]

Making Amends to People We Have Harmed

Making amends to people we have harmed is important to continued sobriety. “Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all” is Step 8 of Alcoholics Anonymous. Many alcoholics think that they have only harmed themselves, but that is simply not true. Even if the alcoholic […]

Came to Believe…

Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity is the second step of Alcoholics Anonymous. It is also one of the hardest because people have a problem believing that there is anything greater than they are. Many people struggle with the idea of God, because they see the suffering […]